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The Singapore Centre for the Promotion of Nonviolent Communication |
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Sharing the gifts of Compassion, Connection and Choice |
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About NVC |
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‘Nonviolent Communication is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. It contains nothing new; all that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries. The intent is to remind us about what we already know about how we humans were meant to relate to one another and to assist us in living in a way that concretely manifests this knowledge.’ Dr Marshall B Rosenberg
To arrive at a mutual desire to cooperate and give from our hearts, NVC focuses our attention on 4 key ingredients in effective communication: First, we observe what is actually happening in a situation: what we are seeing or hearing in other people’s behavior or words that is either enriching or not enriching us. Next, we state how we feel when we observe this behavior: do we feel hurt, scared, joyful, amused, irritated, etc. Thirdly, we state what universal and life-affirming needs of ours are connected to the feelings we have identified. These three components allow us to clearly and honestly express how we are without blaming others for our state of being. Finally, we can follow up with a fourth ingredient - a clear and specific request that addresses what we are wanting from the other person that would make life more wonderful for us. Using these four ingredients when we speak and when we listen, we are led to express ourselves with honesty and clarity, whilst simultaneously paying others a respectful and empathetic attention. In any exchange, we come to hear our own deeper needs and those of others. Resistance, defensiveness and violent reactions are minimized, and we can increasingly connect with the depth of our own compassion. Around the world then, this extraordinary ‘language of the heart’ is changing how parents relate to children, teachers relate to students, and how we all relate to each other and even to ourselves. Through Nonviolent Communication we all have an opportunity to: · Create more satisfying personal relationships · Meet our needs in ways that honour and respect our values and the values of others · Heal from previous experiences and relationships that have been painful or unsuccessful Attend a discussion group or join a training now
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Dr Marshall B Rosenberg, founder and director of educational services at the international Centre for Nonviolent Communication |
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A Language of Compassion |
